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Backstabbing at workplace certainly devastates individuals, especially when a person doesn’t know ho to deal with it. Now, career guru Kepcher has offered some advice on how to identify and cope with backstabbers at workplace.
Credit Stealer
Seemingly helpful team player who will enthusiastically support your suggestions and work to make the project a big success – particularly because she intends to take credit.
This will include magnifying her own role, using personal pronouns such as ‘I’ and ‘me’ as substitutes for “we” whenever possible.
The Chameleon
He, too, will appear to be a helpful team player, offering encouragement and support in private.
However, the chameleon will launch into his command performance whenever bosses are present and criticize ideas he supported some time back, including subtly accusing his peers of failing to notice the problems.
His every move is an effort to make himself look good – by making others look bad.
Backstabber In Chief
Occasionally, the Backstabber will also be the boss. Sigourney Weaver nailed this role in the movie “Working Girl.”
The most encouraging boss imaginable will steal the assistant’s potentially career-making idea.
How to handle all kinds of backstabbers at your office, by Kepcher, reports the New York Daily News:
Stay calm. Do not let them make you emotional and defensive.
Don’t wander through the jungle alone. Beware of private conversations that can be misquoted later. Use e-mail and group meetings to document your contributions.
Be polite, but persistent. Learn to say no.
Use direct phrases such as, “I’m perplexed you have so many negative comments about our idea since you were so supportive when we spoke privately yesterday. Is there a reason you didn’t bring up your concerns until now?”
By being direct and careful, you can help push the Backstabber species in your workplace to extinction as quickly as possible.

The first thoughts of most people who find themselves deep in debt, include those of how to begin getting out of it.

What may be a natural urge, is stopped short by the failure on the part of many to go into deeper detail on their plans. When this sort of plan is used you could end up making this same mistake again and again. When it is not your intent to make this a life pattern for you, your plans for debt consolidation have to encompass a great number of items.

Any way to pay the bills they can come up with, that will help keep the collectors away is what many people gravitate toward. This is what is necessary, but you have to wonder if these people took the time to find out which course of action would work out the best for them.

In too many cases, there is fast run to the bank or to an online lending website to obtain a loan which may only be a quick fix for a bigger problem. The lender tells them exactly how much they can borrow and they take that amount without question, whether the loan is a payday loan, a home equity loan or a personal loan.

Many people have learned by misfortunate circumstances that loans do come with a price tag attached and the lender’s advice on borrowing more to get a bigger house is backfiring on them. Not anyone could have been able to foresee how things would turn out to be now, but it is always best to apply common sense. It is more risky for the borrower than the lender when you borrow more than you can afford in the hope of being able to afford it later.

Education should always be a part of a solid debt consolidation program. Time must be spent in finding what really works best for you, not just anything that works. It also must involve correction of bad spending habits, or that individual will be establishing for himself or herself a bad pattern for life.

You must make some changes in the way you are spending your money each month, when you continue to purchase on credit . It becomes all too easy to look at how much more money can be charged, rather than asking yourself if you have spent your budgeted amount for the month yet.

A life pattern can be a good pattern, however these good patterns also must have a beginning step. It may be a good idea to get educated on wiser money management and ways to help you save more money, as you are preparing to consolidate your debt.

We most likely can take the same amount of time and energy to establish good spending habits and patterns for life as it takes to establish those bad ones. Your future can begin to look a little brighter for you and those you love after you have done this.

When it comes to psychology and financial behaviour, India does not have too much of research papers. Hence we are forced to turn to the US or UK for such research work.
US studies have summarised financial problems and have found the following to be the most common of financial problems:

~ Not planning: The single biggest problem for most people is that they just do not plan their finances. It just keeps coming and going. Even if they are not happy about the results of what they have done so far, they do not change the way things are done.

~ Overspending: Many people with not very high incomes have very high ambitions. This is likely to get them to grief. Most of this problem is because the salesmen in most shops do not tell you the price of a product, they only tell you the EMI — so anything from a plasma TV to a luxury home on the outskirts of the city are made to look cheap! After all at Rs 2,899 a month does a plasma TV not look cheap?

~ Not talking finance at home: Children are kept away from the finance topics at the dining table. Finance is perhaps the second most taboo topic at home! So many children grow up without knowing how much of sacrifice their parents have gone through to educate them.

~ Parents spending on education and marriage: There are just too many kids out there who believe that they need to worry about savings, investment and life insurance only at the age of 32 plus. This means your father, father in-law or a loan has funded your education and marriage. Kids should take on financial responsibility at a much younger age than what is happening currently.

~ Marriage between financially incompatible people: Most marriages under stress are actually under financial stress. Either the husband or the wife is from a rich background and the other partner cannot understand or cope with the spending pattern. It is necessary to match people financially before marriage.

~ Delaying saving for retirement: “I am only 27 years old why should I think of retirement” seems to be a very valid refrain for many 32 year olds! Every year that you delay in investing the greater the amount that you will have to save later in your life. Till the age of 32 it might be feasible for you to catch up, but after some time the amount that you need to save for retirement just flies away.

~ Not prepared for medical emergencies: Normally big emergencies — financially speaking — are medical emergencies. Being unprepared for them — by not having an emergency fund is quite common. Emergency fund has now come to mean the credit card — which is good news for the bank, not for the borrower.

~ Lack of asset allocation: Risk is not a new concept. However, it is a difficult concept to understand. For example when the Sensex was 3k there was much less risk in the equity markets than there is today. However at 3k index people were afraid of the market. Now everybody and his aunt wants to be in the equity market — and there are enough advisors who keep saying, “Equity returns are superior to debt returns.” This is true with a rider — in the long run. It is convenient for the relationship manager to forget the rider. So there could be a much larger allocation to equity at higher prices — to make for the time missed out earlier.

~ Falling prey to financial pitches: The quality of pitches has improved! Aggressive young kids are recruited by brokerage houses, banks, mutual funds, life insurance companies, etc. and all these kids are selling mutual funds, life insurance, portfolio management schemes, structured products, et al. Selling to their kith and kin helps these kids keep their jobs, and there is happiness all around! These kids, themselves prey to financial pitches, have now made it an art when they are selling to their own natural ‘circle of friends’ and relatives.

~ Buying financial products from ‘obligated persons’: This is perhaps one of the worst things you can do in your financial life. A friend, relative, neighbor, colleague who has been doing something else suddenly becomes a financial guru because they have become an agent! They, in great enthusiasm, sell you a financial product and promptly in 2 years time give up this ‘business’ because it is too difficult. You are saddled with a dud product for life! What a pity. Charity begins at home, not financial planning.

~ Financial illiteracy: Most people do not wish to know or learn about financial products. They simply ask, “Where do I have to sign” — so buying a mutual fund is easier than buying life insurance! Selecting products based on the ease and simplicity of buying is a shocking but true real life experience in the financial behaviour of the rational human being!

~ Ignoring small numbers for too long: What difference will it make if I save Rs 1,000 a month? Well over a long period it could make you a millionaire! So start early and invest wisely. It will make you rich. That is the power of compounding.

~ Urgent vs important: Most expenses, which look urgent, are perhaps not so important — the shirt or shoe at a sale. That luxury item which was being offered at 30 per cent discount is such an example. These small leakages are all reducing the amount of money you will have for the bigger things like education or retirement.

~ Focusing too much on money: Money is no longer a commodity to buy things. It is a scorecard of one’s life. That will cause stress, and yoga might help. However if you will seek a branded yoga teacher — so that your friends think you have arrived, yoga it self could cause financial stress! (Sounds wierd but very true.)